Automotive Journal

The first date can make anyone nervous- but with the right mindset, and a little confidence, any first date can be successful. Of course this takes some special learning and tactics, but the results payoff in the end for those who just can’t seem to “seal the deal.”

Above all else, how one thinks about how they look or act is the biggest flaw in one’s confidence. If you feel that you aren’t good looking, have a poor personality, or just don’t see yourself as a “good catch,” your confidence is going to likewise suffer. In this case, it’s best to either become comfortable with yourself, or fix what you see wrong to the best of your ability.

A good way to exert confidence in a relationship is to be three things: outgoing, talkative, and carefree. All three characteristics will give off the impression that you are confident- when in fact you might not be. Of course, being talkative and outgoing can be tough for someone new to the confidence game. If nothing else, one can always be carefree- just relax on your date, there are plenty of options should one date not work out!

A common trait that is misconstrued as confidence is arrogance. It is very important not to mix these two characteristics of personality, as arrogance can indeed give a very bad impression. Being confident is one thing- but being confident also means being refined and sophisticated. Arrogance usually shows the opposite gender that you are narcissistic or egotistical- and no one wants to date someone with these traits.

How one lives is another big confidence killer. If you happen to have a sloppy lifestyle, shabby home, or even if you live with your parents, studies show that you are much more likely to have confidence. This is natural, and in this case, it is best to look at dating as a means of finding the “one” who sees past superficial norms society places on living arrangements. As a result, you’ll likely find a more stable relationship anyhow.

Confidence also can be created by going on a date doing something you are familiar with. All too often, the first date is a new experience for those who lack confidence. Going rock climbing when you have never gone before, in this case, is a very bad idea. Instead, go to a local restaurant or engage in a physical activity that you are familiar with.

Lastly, it is important to not take any failures as a sign that you lack confidence- not all relationships are determined by confidence. But as studies show, the opposite gender will be much more likely to be attracted to someone of their type if they do indeed exert confidence.

Above all else, always try to have fun on the first date, and any dates following should you leave a good impression. Take note that a failure isn’t always a setback- but just another reason to keep dating to find the special person for you. Armed with your new confidence, the chase for the “one” may now be easier than you think.